I was born a Tomboy so i have always blurred the boundaries between male and female but since becoming a young adult i have realised that my perception of what i am will change quite a few times a month or week. I would say the binary understanding of gender is the oddity, not vice versa. If you go to Disneyland, which attraction is absolutely your must-do/must-see? Some of you may be surprised that I've barely mentioned the role of sexuality in gender identity. Like, l thought l was a lesbian, but maybe l'm also demiromantic? I didn't see train wreck in there. Hijra can be biologically male, female, or intersex, but are most commonly male. I feel comfortable to dress me as both gender. To a true TS, or should I say, to me - I cannot speak for everyone, calling it dressing is sort of absurd. I know it sounds funny, however my life has lead me to a wife of 23 years, two wonderful kids and a long history of depression and inner turmoil. MindField from Portland, Oregon on May 06, 2009: issues veritas - You could have seen in the first paragraphs that this wasn't a hub for you. And opera and all sorts of "sissy" stuff like that. (People sometimes thought I was a lesbian in school.) don't really know I don't like guys but feel attracted to tgirls ???? To a CD or TV? well said jimmy but why hide it from the world. The fact of the matter, there are two sexes/genders and the rest are mistakes. Transgender individuals may be heterosexual, homosexual, bisexual, pansexual, asexual, or paraphiliac, just like cisgender individuals. Instead, you opt to live your life free of labels and the kind of boxed in thinking that so many ascribe to. Which app do you think you would use the most? is a biological male who identifies as female. When most people think of gender identity, they are really thinking Gender Identity Test How a person identifies their gender is very personal. emily, I'm a hetro young teenager girl, but I came here because I don't feel like I'm a woman or a man. A trans man is a biological female who identifies as male; a trans woman But to be honest the majority of time i see myself leaning over more to the protective guy said (at least last couple of months) and it is really hard and infuriating because i know i can't click my fingers to turn my gender whenever i want. Is this something similar or related? After all, aren't all trangender people homosexual? Transsexual people are individuals who identify with a different sex than the Thus, it is incorrect to lump transsexual men and women in with the umbrella, one size fits all group of TG's (CD's, TV's, Genderf**k, and so on). My struggle which I had known I would have to deal with from age 4 finally had to be addressed and after going to therapy much earlier in my life to discuss I found myself back in therapy because I could no longer his my struggle and pain. undergo sex reassignment therapy in order to become their target sex. We describe some of these terms. You have sparked many queries and given rise to many personal experiences. In these cases, the assigned sex and gender do not match the person's gender identity, and the person is transgender. androgynes typically reject elements of both traditional genders; I hope I at least managed not to screw up the basics too badly. I'm glad you found it easy to understand. So, you can pidgeon hole me in one of those categories, but when I am wearing my female attire, it feels wonderful and I am not hurting anyone. Your poll really shows that the only people who look up this kind of stuff are people on the front line - no-where else would trans women be outnumbering everyone else! Unlike the animal kingdom we don't use natural selection and the survival of the most fit. My Mental Gender Test. Instead, you go with your head. I've always felt more adrogynous, even though I don't necessarily look that way. pronouns of their target sex, i.e. Likewise for cisgender. It is a complicated subject - not least because some of these terms have as many different definitions as there are people who identify by them! :P. Tatjana-Mihaela from Zadar, CROATIA on May 06, 2009: He, he, I am male in female body: do not like to cook and wash dishes (from very recently, due to the various circumstances). Open your phone and take a selfie. I believe some day it will be found that you and your like are the ones who are not normal. and to classify me with other trans people under the umbrella is not correct I support any and all Tg's out there for the courage they posses ,but when it comes to someone asking me what gender I am I say female and that's it. kerryg (author) from USA on May 07, 2009: What an enlightening hub! Nice article! Androgynes do not identify fully with either traditional male or consider themselves transgender. I have always been attracted to women but want to look like one. Most prefer to be referred to by the gender Androgyne: I don't dress particularly flamboyantly. I can assure you, if I wore feminine attire, ponytails and earrings, I would be the same person inside. No matter which gender you were born, you definitely think and act like a female. The difference is not necessarily of behavior, but of perception. Literate people know that "gender" refers to words in declined languages, spank thee very much. More people need to have an open mind. I'm a sissified cross dresser that enjoys getting humiliated by others. I like tamales. For example, a bearded man wearing a dress might be considered a genderfuck. You missed that category :). 8. on June 24, 2010: Loved this, kerry. It felt, well, bestial, primitive, but at the same time, amazingly powerful -- far, far beyond my capacity to break off the act (had there been any reason to). Instead, you go with your head. :( But there are somedays when i want male genitals instead of female and days when i am happy i'm female. Well thanks for posting it can be a trending discussion on social media networks. For example, many self-described "tomboys" consider themselves cisgender, even though they do not I am a totally straight man, married with children and I wear lingerie all the time and wear other ladies appearl when the opportunity presents itself. To call transsexualism a 'common transgender identity' is way off base because the two terms are distinctly different and cannot (should not) be used interchangibly. Pangender: Pangender is In the West, gender identity is most commonly divided into two main categories: It's important to note that gender identity is fluid and often a matter of perception more than quantifiable differences in behavior. traditional female roles and often adopt elements of both in behavior, clothing, and mannerisms, so that it may be difficult to determine which sex the person is. however, I never felt normal. That there is a corrupt gene in your DNA that makes you hateful, xenophobic, and compelled to point out to all and sundry what's wrong with others while holding yourself up as righteous and godly. Unlike sex, which is biologically based, gender is largely a cultural construct. For me it is a discovery. I dunno it that's normal, but for most of the time I don't see myself as someone with gender, because I'm not that feminine or masculine and I probably never have the chance to be a guy. Actually, sex and gender are very different things. about biological sex. I live my life as Kristen because that is who I am. Georgiakevin from Central Georgia on July 22, 2009: Your hub is wonderful. I agree with you as well . If these comments offend you, then realize that your hub content offends me. It just seems not to matter anymore. Steph. I've heard it many times before, 'Are you dressing tonight?' Actually he called himself an "action transvestite". i am androgyne and pansexual i belive i am a male but i like to wear female clothing i do not try to pass as a female but as a male in female clothes i donot belive i am a female traped in a male body but i belive i should be able to dress and act as i want to people assume that i am a transexual and want to be a woman but that is so far from true. Because after srs all documents are usually changed to reflect that they are now female, but used to be male physically. hot dorkage from Oregon, USA on May 06, 2009: There are three gender identities: Male, Female and Tamale. I’ve wanted to be a male, but I didn’t want to, at the same time I wanted to stay a female. An example is the Samoan fa'afafine, who are typically biologically male but who dress and behave like women. ... hahaha, I imagine her calling a psychologist if I confess what I am .... you don’t have to fit your gender stereotype. And calls me as my girl name. Other anthropologists have found fourth, fifth, and even sixth genders in some cultures. I love how you clearly described the differences in genders. Though most often associated with the transgender community, cisgendered individuals may also participate. Your hub is a welcome source of education and a welcome reassurance for those who really need reassurance. I literally found out I'm not cis like two months ago, and I'm 18. That's not to say I'm any better, or worse than any one TG. Because so many groups and methodologies are involved, there is frequent overlap between different types of gender identity. Transvestite: Transvestitism, also known as cross dressing, refers to a behavior, rather than a gender identity. I have no interest in being male, and identify as cisgender, but I'm definitely on the tomboy end of the scale, and can't relate to girly girls at all. You really laid this all out in a very clear way, which, considering the topic, is no small accomplishment! Your mental gender is 100% male. It never felt completely right inside. Homosexuals may also view themselves as either trans or cisgendered. It depends on the day/your mood on how you identify. Once again, I am going to make my statement, that if people are going to be outlandish with their hub content, then I can be outlandish with my comments. Reproduction is the whole concept behind gender/sex. Life is extremely hard and full of tears for anyone who has has to deal with gender issues. Rebecca Graf from Wisconsin on May 06, 2009: I might be Transmale because at times I can't stand the emotional acts of women (did I put that in writing?!). In India and Pakistan, a similar identity called hijra exists. While being of the male sex, I don't have a "gender identity." 1. Or macho men, for that matter. Do you have male genitalia or female genitalia? I am not into the make-up and wig thing except for halloween and maybe 1 other time a year, so am I a man who wears lingerie?? They may be fine people and great friends and they may even make contributions to society, but they should not be included in the norm. What is your gender identity? :P. noxadari from Oklahoma on August 30, 2011: Very well written hub, it's things like this that hopefully will spread the education and understanding further. Being cisgendered does not mean that you must conform to all You don't believe that a person has to be bogged down by one gender or another. I'm only saying the two groups are not the same, they aren't. But I identify as a girl and always will because I've been sissified for 40+ yrs. Emotional yet strong, intelligent yet kind. When I was growing up, there were only two choices. sequoiablessed from USA on August 03, 2009: Well done! e.g I would prefer to have long hair but I have shortish hair?