And you'll have to figure out if your relationship can survive the move, because thats also a possibility, that it won't work out after you two are in the same place. Hot and Cold in a Long Distance Relationship? That's two years. She's grounded over there. Press J to jump to the feed. Even if there was a time frame, though, it would be easier to cope, I think. Long distance relationship- I feel like we don't communicate enough? But we're both suffering. We've joined the BHM Digital family of websites and have updated our Terms of Service and Privacy Policy. I don't think I can do long distance anymore. Keep things as they are. If we can't make it work within those two years, then I can always move back. I've had a few relationships in the past, but none like this. I've recently come back from visiting him for a month and realised that if we were together that we could work. It's possible the other person has already met someone, so I wouldn't say anything at all about what you hope for that person's future. I've always wanted to work for this company. In college, long distance is pretty much a deal breaker IMO. One of us will have to make the sacrifice. MadameNoire ® Copyright © 2020 BossipMadameNoire, LLC All Rights Reserved | BHM Digital. As someone who's been in an international LDR (Canada-UK; and then later it turned to Canada-SE Asia) for 7 years now (it's a long story), whose relationship started as an LDR... you need to have an end date and plan in sight, otherwise it won't work, especially if you're feeling the pressure now. I don't know what to do anymore. Are you going to get married in order to do that? I love him, and I do want to be with him. If you're confident and you trust each other, try to spice things up. We have talked about breaking up or going on a small break but neither of us want that. But apart I don't think I can handle waiting another 3 years to be with him officially. You'll have to deal with immigration (which sucks, it's the main reason our LDR has been so long). We're both at university now and we have obligations that are holding us both down so we can't just pick up and move. I know several successful LDR but they had one of two things: 1) a defined end date of when it would no longer be long distance or 2) frequent visits, usually every weekend. Break up. This is just delaying the inevitable breakup and continuing the hardship of the LDR. Long distance relationship going dull i feel my gf is pulling away slowly! You only get one life. Press question mark to learn the rest of the keyboard shortcuts. Whether you meet someone you like who happens to live in another state or if your boyfriend has to relocate somewhere that isn’t exactly close by, sometimes long-distance relationships just happen. Have separate spaces in the same city. When we were together it was so perfect and I could see us being together for a long time if we did live together. you should not give up a job that is a good fit for a relationship. You are going to have to have a tough conversation with her to figure out where your relationship is going. Yes, London's one of my favourite cities. Why do I keep feeling like I don't love my long distance girlfriend anymore... How to Deal: Making a long-distance relationship work. Not clear who it is -- you or the other person -- who can't handle the long distance anymore. And also, what's the plan for moving and immigrating? I'll try for a work visa.